Diary fragments 

Monday (March 21, 2016)
I almost spent my whole weekend on 15 interview questions. Althogh I thought I had presented my efforts as excellent as I could, even I learnt a lot during the preperation and presentation, I strongly felt that I was trying my best to please my professor and the fictionious HR manager instead of enriching myself with knowledge.
You are not who you are, I am not who I am. It sucks.
Tuesday (March 22, 2016)
I kept wondering my future development. Which University and which major should I apply for my master degree? I might dive into English Literature and Art and I won’t be interested in Business and English Teacher (well, I might come back to WKU as an English Professor. Hhh. I am making a joke seriously). My parents care about “rate of return”, in other words, they care about “wether my high cost of education can equipe with the ability to earn money and the possibility of living an affluent life or not”.
What do you think, Daisy?
Wednesday (March 23, 2016)
Endless raining in Wenzhou and it is pretty cold outside today.
What do you care? What do you want? What do you think? What is your goal?
“Oh God, I don’t know.”
I admire those students who have a clear final goal and achived several aims according to prescribed path. On the one hand, I long to become one of them, on the other hand, I am scared to become a classical painting in the frame.


[IDEA] About Communication – Updated 160314

Just like a bottle filled up with water, which can be knocked down easily, I was massed up at the beginning of this week. However, I admitted my weaknesses because of the setback, and I got a chance to reflect my former behaviors as well as my mentality. So…

What are my weaknesses?

The most obvious one is my communication style.

When I was discussing ideas or plans about projects or outstanding questions with others, I tended to insist my opinions in aggressive ways: raising my voice volume, speeding up my pace, letting anxieties appear on my facial expressions and using “but” to combat others’ plans frequently. When I recalled my memories about these conversations, I felt that I was the witness of these “conversation wars”, where no negotiations happened but only win and lose. I was the warrior. I was defeated when my proposals were turned down, and then looked down upon myself, questioned my ability, sank into negative emotions for a long time before I could get back to my feet. What’s more, I often complained about myself, “Daisy, you spent XX days to overcome this defeat, you have to recover sooner!!!”

Although I tried to change my aggressive conversation style, propose a better plan and strengthen my resilience,I was still a fighter in the “war”. I seemed to be more easygoing but I was struggled with stress, disappointment or even anger.

“This was not the conversation I want and communications should not be like this. But…” I kept asking myself, “But what does communication mean?”

What is communication? How can I achieve an effective conversation?

Although I took communication course, learned principles and techniches that can be applied for conversations, I am still a green hand in this field. Now, I myself cannot give an definition or explaintion on this question but I learned from my previous experiences that communication is not a skin-deep battle with other communicators. One of the premise of an effective conversation might be realizing my own characteristics and mentalities. If my current mindsets block my way toward becoming a better communicator, I should fix them step by step instead of criticizing then pushing myself irrationally.

This blog post will be updated once I learned valuable ideas from my own experiences or others guidance. And I hope you can harvest what you are expected by reading this blog post.

Also, I believe that ” Ideas-Actions=S**T “. Thus, I created a action post to encourage myself to communicate with others  and learn from my successes and failures.

Blog – A Tool for Writing Persuasive Essay

Recently, I read Shelley Wright’s Blogging is the New Persuasive Essay. I was inspired by her article because it tackled many problems which  exist in teaching students about writing persuasive essays.

According to Wright, helping students become independent thinkers is essential. Students’ persuasive essays are great evidences for  keeping track of their developments on thinking. However, on their ways to become a better thinker, some students cannot produce thesis statements that can be argued. Also, many students don’t write persuasive essays/articles anymore once they graduated from school.

To solve these problems, Wright made blogs her writing courses assistants as well as students practicing platforms. The following points are advantages of blogging persuasive essays:

  1. less stress
  2. make writing and persuasive thinking a life-long skill
  3. have more potential audiences than academic persuasive writing
  4. interactions on cyberspace push students produce ideas that can be tested/argued
  5. visible progression

I can’t agree more on last three points but I hold different views on the first one and the second.

Take myself as an example. Since I  might have more audiences from cyberspace and  my works are no longer private (not only professor, but also other students in the class can view work), I felt more stressful when I was writing a persuasive article on blog. I experienced more hesitations than writing academic essays. Meanwhile, if we use blogs for interactions, it is important to teach students how to comment others works in a well-spoken manner, and how to answer potential language violence objectively.

Towards the second point, I agree that blogging can develop students’ persuasive thinking skills but I choose to respect students’ present manners. I won’t place blogging/writing as a “more recommended” manner or “think more highly of blogging/writing than other tools”. Some students are good at persuasive speaking instead of writing; some students’ practical actions reflect their excellent persuasive thinking skills, although writing itself is a torture for them. After all, our final goal is to develop the persuasive thinking model. Blogging is only one of the useful tools.